It's very seldom that I get really angry about something... I mean, I get angry in general about intolerant people, bigots, people who let their kids run amuck and don't teach them manners... but I seldom get angry at a specific person on a personal level.
The reason for that I believe is this.... Discord between people is caused by misplaced expectations... therefore I try not to misplace my expectations... That's one of the fantastic little lessons I learned the hard
I misplaced my expectations yesterday morning when running into a couple I've been in close proximity to for many years .... As I walked up behind them in line at Walgreen's, I said, "Hello Insert plural form of last name here"!!" ... They each muttered a very unenthused, "Hi.." without turning to make eye contact at all in any way, shape form or fashion. In fact, I've wondered since yesterday morning how they even knew it was me... I said, "How are y'all?" ... One of them said "Fine" so quickly that it sounded more like a bug whizzing by my ear than a human being speaking.
Then... as I stood there trying to decide if I should make a total fanny head of myself by asking them why they felt it necessary to be so aloof and rude to me, a gentleman came in the door and the husband of the couple I was trying to speak to shouted out across the front of Walgreen's throwing his hand high in the air... "Hello there, how are you doing?" The man who had wondered in spoke back to the husband in front of me and I couldn't help but wonder if they knew one another... or if it was sort of along the lines of leaving a bad waitress a penny... by barely speaking to me and speaking out quite delightfully to the gentleman who came in the door, it let me know of his disdain for me...
I've known for the last several years that there had been a rift between myself and this couple ... I know the reason for it, so my only regret is their delusion behavior over the situation that was at hand... By sharing the information I shared that caused this rift, I felt that I was doing a long-term favor to one of the spouses... I had been in that same situation and had someone walked in and handed me .. or sent me proof of something that was dire for me to know, my decisions would have been made with much less emotion...
Much the same way an officer of the law is attacked by both spouses when making an attempt to aid the well-being of one ... that backfired.
I regret that I lost a relationship with two people that I thought an awful lot of ... the husband especially ... he was a sincere friend for many years and at one time was one of my absolute favorite people on earth... I recall some fantastically fascinating conversations with him and let's be honest ... we don't get that much in this neck of the woods ...
I more so regret the extenuating relationship issues it has led to... It's over and done. I can do nothing about it now ... but the behavior I outlined about is the absolute truth, so help me God .. seriously .. they uttered words..barely - as rude as can be. When I run into this other couple of ... let's say ... equivalent relationship status, they're as nice as can be - if our arms aren't full (like in the grocery or something) we hug, we chat for at least 30 or 45 seconds if not a few minutes... so yes, I was snubbed yesterday and it not only hurt my feelings, but pissed me off...
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