On Friday evening, as I cruised the channels checking out the entertainment; I ran across 20/20. I thoroughly enjoy 20/20 just as I do every other news program ... 60 Minutes, 48 Hours, Dateline and any others I happen to stumble across.
On this particular Friday evening I settled into an episode of 20/20 that was to feature a story on the "Alarmingly High' Number of Teens who Claim Sexual Harassment at Work. I couldn't imagine what had caused this recent spike they were speaking of, so I decided to suit up in my most favorite turquoise flannel - pink flamingo and airstream trailer pajamas, settle in and check it out.
If you wish to see the whole extravaganza of blaming others for one's own decisions; you can certainly "Google" "ABC" "20/20" "Starbucks" and find a wealth of information.
It seems that 16 year-old, Kati Moore of Orange County, CA
felt as if she had been forced to have sex, do illegal drugs and illegally consume alcohol at the prodding of her 24 year old Starbucks manager. It IS a travesty for a 16 year old to feel as if they don't have a choice in a matter. At that age, a youth has not yet developed the decision making skill and certainty of one's own ethics and way of life.
It's a sad situation indeed for 24 year old Tim Horton to have taken advantage of Ms. Moore's lack of good judgment; however I find it even more sad that Ms. Moore's mother has decided that the efficient way to handle the situation is to sue Starbucks and claim that her daughter was victimized.
I find Mrs. Moore's outlook on the situation to be devastatingly crippling to her daughter. I'm sure that she believes everything her daughter has
told her and I'm certain that she feels she's doing the right thing by protecting her daughter and helping her to try and save her reputation. However, I am even more certain that Mrs. Moore is without a doubt teaching her daughter to blame others for her actions and that is a very irresponsible way to live.
As time goes on, portions of the older generations tend to complain about younger generations. As I grow older I find myself criticizing things that just "aren't what they used to be".
The answer to this, I feel; is to stop enabling the children who will handle our world tomorrow to blame others for their actions, stop teaching them that they are entitled and stop teaching them that life is a big basket of roses and sunshine because that's not always the case.
In my opinion, there's a large misconception among many parents in today's society. It can be cleared up by simply this .....
It's not the job of parents to "raise children", it's the job of parents to "raise adults". ~Kim Jackson
(*Yes, that's my own person quote ... feel free to use it and LIVE IT!*)
They're only children when you first receive them, you see. What you want to turn out of your little factory called a household is a strong and confident young adult; one who has goals of their own and passions that they want to pursue. One who is equipped with the skills to propel themselves forward into greater and grander things.
It's sad to say, but I'm afraid the young Ms. Moore has quite a long road ahead of her. As I watched her defend herself to the ABC interviewer; every sentence was laced with spider webs of blame that she cast out into her life. Let those webs capture anyone but her.
Ms. Moore has thrown under the bus what appears to be a completely average twenty-four year old man. While he may be a manipulative slime .. he appears in fact to be a quite normal twenty-four old man who was using his position to 'bag' a young, naive girl. When confronted with her own texts and correspondence with her former boss, she was left to shrink into an oblivion of sobs. The records of her correspondence with him clearly stated that she had told him that she wanted to "f*ck him". She had obviously not been actively discouraging her 'relationship' with Mr. Horton.
I'm interested in how this case plays out. I'll be terribly discouraged if Ms. Moore is left to come out on top of this. It seems to be a clear case of a teenage child being caught in the act of doing something they shouldn't be doing.
To the mother of Katie Moore ... I have a bridge or two I'd like to sell you ...
::A link to the story::
http://abcnews.go.com/video/playerIndex?id=9632469