People say that, but do they really think about what it means and implement it?
I can remember experiencing perception issues as a spouse -
"The chicken tastes different .... what'd you do to it?"
Well, that can be taken nineteen different ways - obviously for starters it could be considered a statement followed by a question - that's the way we should take it, but in homes across America it's taken as "Something's wrong with the chicken!!!
Holy, God a'mighty, what have you done to the chicken?!?! *Gasp*"
This sort of thing occasionally leads to a three day disgruntlement
regarding all things cooking and food related.
I haven't had to experience that in a while. That, I think is one of the many reasons I don't really care to ever marry again. I don't want someone so close in my proximity that they cause me question myself....be it about something as trivial as how the chicken is made or something as important as why I choose the paths I take...
Suffice it to say, that sometimes we don't hear exactly what people say. I think Dr. Phil refers to the phenomenon as the things you tell yourself about yourself.
The graphic below was taken by me this morning on my Mom's facebook page ...
When she posted that I had just called her to let her know she had some duplicate paragraphs in her post.
I point this out because when she posted that my kitchen became a whirlwind of expletives - It started with "Holy Jimminy Crickets Mother ... I did not smurfing tell you that you'd really messed up... Jimminy Crickets!!!" .... Yeah, it got pretty rowdy in here for a minute :) ..... but then I calmed down and realized I MUST say something. For one reason, I don't want all of my Mom's friends to think I'm a total sea hag ... and for another I think it's an important lesson for all of us to learn. Those are all things she said on the phone while she was trying to put her chocolate with my peanut butter and figure out what had happened. I know I wasn't saying those things because I was trying to tell her just to slowly proof read, correct and repost.
We do that - we beat ourselves up about things.
I'll be honest with you ... I really don't know why the smurf we do it. It's a preposterous thing to do really.
Imagine that your phone rings right now and you pick it up and it's your friend George... and George says, "Hey there pal, whadya doin' this morning?" ..... and YOU say, "Well George I'm just sittin' here talkin' to myself in my noggin like a no-good-cod-waddlin'-piece-of-sh*t while I drink my coffee... thinking about what I do wrong and not givin' myself any credit for the knowledge and skills I've got; what're you up to today?"
Give yourselves credit for the things you do right, people!
Give yourselves a pat on the back for knowing how to do things ...
as simple as changing the oil in a car or baking a loaf of bread.
Having said all of that, Mom posted a very informative blog today.... it very literally has information in it that could save your life. You can find it here at the
I've blogged for years. I have hundreds and hundreds of blogs that have never seen the light of day.
They sit - half done in my blogging queue, waiting for research or graphics or some other tidbit that would make a "finished product" out of them.
At one point my mother decided she was going to blog. Her lack of 2010 Technology Know-How caused her to just start blogging right there on her Facebook page in the comments... It was hard to follow for anyone who hadn't known her their entire life - and sometimes required a second read for someone who had. = )
I suggested she set up a blogger account. A short run of classes ensued to teach her how to post, a few phone calls to walk her through getting setup with Networked Blogs and instruct her on setting things up to auto post to her Facebook profile and she was on her way ...
On October 23rd, she kicked things off with an absolute blow out regarding Facebook drama - saying the things many of us think -
An Excerpt from Mom's blog - ""There's another on my list that posts about 19 times a day & she'll say things like...."SO SO BUSY...How will I ever get it all done?" And I'm thinking...just put the little mouse down...and slowly back away from your computer...put on your little apron and JUST GET BUSY YOU LAZY DRAMA QUEEN!!! :-/ ""
On October 24th she absolutely knocked it out of the park with a blog any smoker should read - including me-
An Excerpt from Mom's blog - ""But before that 3 days is up and you get the time to call...you get a call within 24hours from 'them'...and the office tells you...you need to come back in immediately, doc needs to talk to you. You get a little nervous, but 'you' feel ok...so you go in thinking it's probably high blood sugar or some little something is off whack and it will all come out in the wash...but to your horror...he tells you..."I don't know how to tell you this...but you have cancer and it looks bad...we need to put you right in the hospital and do more testing."""
On November 5th, she did a doozie onmultiple personalities and her tweaking of her writing style amid feedback and sometimes criticism. This one is actually one of my faves - she goes into a great little chatter right from the get-go about the feedback Daddy-O and I give her and how she doesn't know what to write about anymore. Happily, the Universe rewarded her with feedback from friends and readers who said, "Say it however you want, it's your blog!" .... and they're right.
Yesterday's blog (12/10) discusses the 17 Day Diet
An Excerpt from Mom's blog - All of the above was in the book...except the line I added about alternating walking/jogging in front of the tv..that's called 'interval exercise' and it's said to burn more calories than just walking OR jogging......the book was FILLED with details and info...I guess so we'd think we were getting our moneys worth..."I" would have been more content with a 5 page print off...with just the facts...but who asked 'me'?
I am definitely going to try this diet...and I'm going to begin tomorrow (Saturday)...and I hope many of you will join me and let's see what we can do by Christmas...what a gift to ourselves...to give ourselves a 10-15 pound weight loss for Christmas...if we start tomorrow...we will be finished with our 17 days on December 28th...
In yesterday's blog, she also gives an update on a local homeless boy. My Mother's nosey nature has been and continues to be a blessing for many as it causes her to go above and beyond the call of duty to help total strangers.
I called her one afternoon because I was approached by a man at a gas station in Metropolis who was looking for gas and food and had a car filled with children and a frantic looking wife. Mom came in with her own private help fund, took them to the grocery for diapers and such - gave me some money and sent me to McDonald's to get some Cokes and cheeseburgers. After two hours or so these folks were on their way and Mom was apologizing profusely that my entire afternoon had been taken up helping people. (I like to help people, but I'm not as likely to "reprioritize things" for others as my Mom is)
I told her that it was fine and it was good for me to do things like that although I was a bit peeved that the decisions that those people had made in life-leading them to be broke and stranded in Metropolis had taken up MY entire afternoon. (I'm a bit selfish that way - it comes from being the "baby sister")
A few days later, Mom found out that those folks were scheisters who travel our region scamming people. That happens, but it's still touching to me when someone's heart is in the right place. My heart is usually distracted with other things (my dreams and goals) and sometimes it takes my Mom to remind me that everyone needs someone to care about them.
Well enough of that mush-tasticness - YIKES!
Anywho, we currently have a little blogging buddies project going on over here at the Ocho - Today I've introduced you to my Mom's blog - I'll be doing a piece in the next few days to introduce you to the blog of my friend, Mary. Keep your eyes open for that!
Below is the widget for my Mom's Blog, Bird's Eye View of the Katydid - A Simple Woman's Musings.
You can find the widgetHERE if you would like to add it to your own blog or website.
