It's all about perception.
People say that, but do they really think about what it means and implement it?
I can remember experiencing perception issues as a spouse -
"The chicken tastes different .... what'd you do to it?"
Well, that can be taken nineteen different ways - obviously for starters it could be considered a statement followed by a question - that's the way we should take it, but in homes across America it's taken as "Something's wrong with the chicken!!!
Holy, God a'mighty, what have you done to the chicken?!?! *Gasp*"
This sort of thing occasionally leads to a three day disgruntlement
regarding all things cooking and food related.
I haven't had to experience that in a while. That, I think is one of the many reasons I don't really care to ever marry again. I don't want someone so close in my proximity that they cause me question myself....be it about something as trivial as how the chicken is made or something as important as why I choose the paths I take...
Suffice it to say, that sometimes we don't hear exactly what people say. I think Dr. Phil refers to the phenomenon as the things you tell yourself about yourself.
The graphic below was taken by me this morning on my Mom's facebook page ...
When she posted that I had just called her to let her know she had some duplicate paragraphs in her post.
I point this out because when she posted that my kitchen became a whirlwind of expletives - It started with "Holy Jimminy Crickets Mother ... I did not smurfing tell you that you'd really messed up... Jimminy Crickets!!!" .... Yeah, it got pretty rowdy in here for a minute :) ..... but then I calmed down and realized I MUST say something. For one reason, I don't want all of my Mom's friends to think I'm a total sea hag ... and for another I think it's an important lesson for all of us to learn. Those are all things she said on the phone while she was trying to put her chocolate with my peanut butter and figure out what had happened. I know I wasn't saying those things because I was trying to tell her just to slowly proof read, correct and repost.
We do that - we beat ourselves up about things.
I'll be honest with you ... I really don't know why the smurf we do it. It's a preposterous thing to do really.
Imagine that your phone rings right now and you pick it up and it's your friend George... and George says, "Hey there pal, whadya doin' this morning?" ..... and YOU say, "Well George I'm just sittin' here talkin' to myself in my noggin like a no-good-cod-waddlin'-piece-of-sh*t while I drink my coffee... thinking about what I do wrong and not givin' myself any credit for the knowledge and skills I've got; what're you up to today?"
Give yourselves credit for the things you do right, people!
Give yourselves a pat on the back for knowing how to do things ...
as simple as changing the oil in a car or baking a loaf of bread.
Having said all of that, Mom posted a very informative blog today.... it very literally has information in it that could save your life. You can find it here at the
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