No worries, kids - I'm not opening "the Vault" on you people, I'm opening it on me...
We're going to learn some lessons!! :)
I just wanted to give you folks a heads up because I'm not one to get deep into the feelings department. The thing is, I'm encountering a few friends lately who are going through breakups and such and I'm feeling that sharing some of my ook from years past might help some of them muddle through their own. Who knows I may learn new things too now.. years later .. from these experiences ...
What is 'the vault', you ask?
Well, "the vault" is the little place deep in the recesses of your noggin where you keep the things that you don't plan to ever think about again. Your hurts, your disappointments, your broken dreams and whatnot .... Sometimes you stuff them into this little vault, leaning on the door as bits and pieces of your baggage poke out from the crevices - sometimes it all goes in neatly and the door shuts with no issue whatsoever.
Over the weekend I had a friend to stop by the Ocho who finds herself at the threshold of a divorce.
I told her, "No worries, sit down - I'll get the Kleenex. I've been where you are. I've felt what you feel - and I'm feeling it right now with you-like, literally-I could vomit... You're GOING to make it though... I know what it's like to try and imagine your life without that person in it. It's not an easy thought and it looks weird when you're playing it in the theater of your noggin, but that life is possible and you're going to make it incredible!"
That's all easy for me to say now. I read that paragraph and it looks almost as foreign as I told my friend that the movie was going to look in her head ... it's not an easy place to get ... and it can take quite some time depending on what exactly you allowed yourself to endure while you were trying to hold your relationship together. We had as long of a chat as we had time for that day, but suffice it to say she's crossed my mind many times this week.
Before we went our separate ways, she apologized profusely for stopping by on such short notice in such an emotional state. I reassured her that when it's necessary to let yourself crash - YOU MUST!
I can guarantee you - if you have a "crash", "crumble", "breakdown", "meltdown", etc coming ... it will come - It's important to let it seep out just a bit at a time - like a little tea pot, short and stout or something...
We're going to learn some lessons!! :)
I just wanted to give you folks a heads up because I'm not one to get deep into the feelings department. The thing is, I'm encountering a few friends lately who are going through breakups and such and I'm feeling that sharing some of my ook from years past might help some of them muddle through their own. Who knows I may learn new things too now.. years later .. from these experiences ...
What is 'the vault', you ask?
Well, "the vault" is the little place deep in the recesses of your noggin where you keep the things that you don't plan to ever think about again. Your hurts, your disappointments, your broken dreams and whatnot .... Sometimes you stuff them into this little vault, leaning on the door as bits and pieces of your baggage poke out from the crevices - sometimes it all goes in neatly and the door shuts with no issue whatsoever.
Over the weekend I had a friend to stop by the Ocho who finds herself at the threshold of a divorce.
I told her, "No worries, sit down - I'll get the Kleenex. I've been where you are. I've felt what you feel - and I'm feeling it right now with you-like, literally-I could vomit... You're GOING to make it though... I know what it's like to try and imagine your life without that person in it. It's not an easy thought and it looks weird when you're playing it in the theater of your noggin, but that life is possible and you're going to make it incredible!"
That's all easy for me to say now. I read that paragraph and it looks almost as foreign as I told my friend that the movie was going to look in her head ... it's not an easy place to get ... and it can take quite some time depending on what exactly you allowed yourself to endure while you were trying to hold your relationship together. We had as long of a chat as we had time for that day, but suffice it to say she's crossed my mind many times this week.
Before we went our separate ways, she apologized profusely for stopping by on such short notice in such an emotional state. I reassured her that when it's necessary to let yourself crash - YOU MUST!
I can guarantee you - if you have a "crash", "crumble", "breakdown", "meltdown", etc coming ... it will come - It's important to let it seep out just a bit at a time - like a little tea pot, short and stout or something...
