I sat sipping java and chain-smoking with a long-lost friend this weekend ... as our visit began to wrap up, my phone rang. I answered it quickly -
"Hey lovie, can I call you back in just a few minutes?"
"Uh..yeah."
"Okay, call you back."
My guest (as many of you who know me in real life might imagine) was highly surprised that I'd answered the phone ... I told him that it was one of my gal pals and she's on the top of my mind right now because her marriage is ending.
"Ooooh ... gotcha." He winced in mental agony ... he's been there ... most of us have ... "Yeah, you'd better ring her back.."
As we started for the door, my text beeped, "George* is f*cking Jane Doe*. That's all I was gonna tell you...."
I quickly shuffled my friend out the door, "Oh no man, she just found out her husband's been having an affair with a woman she works with... I've gotta cut ya' way short, travel safely and I'll talk with you later..."
I dialed the phone ... she answered in tears ... I listened as she told me that she'd come back to what was now becoming her "former house" to pack some things up ... and had found jewelry on the bathroom counter that didn't belong to her. Worse, she recognized the jewelry as that of someone she works with....
My heart was absolutely crumbling for her ... I listened until she stopped with a sigh and said, "I'm okay..."
I then proceeded to tell HER that she is going to be okay. I proceeded to tell her that this will be the time when she finds out who she really is and what makes her truly happy. I explained to her that as her heart begins to heal she will find a side of her that she never knew existed. It will be a lengthy, interesting, exhausting, inspiring, exciting journey...and if you do it correctly, it never really ends.
When my own former-hubby left, I had no idea who I was. I say that very bravely now. I never thought that'd be so easy to put "on paper"... he left though, I didn't want a divorce - but he didn't want to keep his business in his pants when he was away from home, so we'd come to an impasse.
It's hard to go through that heartache. It's hard to realize someone you trusted completely deceived you. It's hard to think about, but one must focus on what's liberating about it.
A fresh start in life is ALWAYS good for you, my dahling
- and karma takes care of the rest...
"Hey lovie, can I call you back in just a few minutes?"
"Uh..yeah."
"Okay, call you back."
My guest (as many of you who know me in real life might imagine) was highly surprised that I'd answered the phone ... I told him that it was one of my gal pals and she's on the top of my mind right now because her marriage is ending.
"Ooooh ... gotcha." He winced in mental agony ... he's been there ... most of us have ... "Yeah, you'd better ring her back.."
As we started for the door, my text beeped, "George* is f*cking Jane Doe*. That's all I was gonna tell you...."
I quickly shuffled my friend out the door, "Oh no man, she just found out her husband's been having an affair with a woman she works with... I've gotta cut ya' way short, travel safely and I'll talk with you later..."
I dialed the phone ... she answered in tears ... I listened as she told me that she'd come back to what was now becoming her "former house" to pack some things up ... and had found jewelry on the bathroom counter that didn't belong to her. Worse, she recognized the jewelry as that of someone she works with....
My heart was absolutely crumbling for her ... I listened until she stopped with a sigh and said, "I'm okay..."
I then proceeded to tell HER that she is going to be okay. I proceeded to tell her that this will be the time when she finds out who she really is and what makes her truly happy. I explained to her that as her heart begins to heal she will find a side of her that she never knew existed. It will be a lengthy, interesting, exhausting, inspiring, exciting journey...and if you do it correctly, it never really ends.
When my own former-hubby left, I had no idea who I was. I say that very bravely now. I never thought that'd be so easy to put "on paper"... he left though, I didn't want a divorce - but he didn't want to keep his business in his pants when he was away from home, so we'd come to an impasse.
It's hard to go through that heartache. It's hard to realize someone you trusted completely deceived you. It's hard to think about, but one must focus on what's liberating about it.
A fresh start in life is ALWAYS good for you, my dahling
- and karma takes care of the rest...
(*George* and *Jane Doe* are fictional names used to protect the identity of those involved.)
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